Most people find it difficult to embark on second date. The
first date is not always hard to get. Your personality, lifestyle, values and
preferences are key elements in creating a successful and long lasting relationships.
Also ensure that the first date goes well.
Things you ought to know and do before and while embarking
on a second date:
1. be too serious. Yes, you don’t have to be serious and
talk on serious topics while dating, but on the first dating it’s important to
keep the chat positive and pleasant.
Ask about hobbies and passions rather than
talking on topics like politics, religion, or money. Try to see the awkwardness
of the first date hilarious. Yes, definitely he or she will sympathize. 
3. Raise topics on past relationships. You are not actually
ready dating if your ex is what you can think to talk about on a date. Try and
get over your past relationship and embark on a new one.
4. Represent yourself falsely online. Make sure that what is
on your profile really depicts what you are. If he or she happens to show up 25
years older or 80 pounds heavier than what the profile states, how will you
feel about it? Be real!
5. Go Dutch. Traditionally, many men see it as their
responsibility to pay for dinner but if you are a progressively kind of person,
let him know that you would like to be the one to pay on the next date. If he
insists, allow him to pay. Don’t argue
about it. Some men feel awkward when their date pays for dinner. Modern date
etiquette says that anyone that proposes a date will be the one to pay. Always
discuss who to pay prior to your dating.
6. Quit too soon. At times it’s usually love at first sight
and at times it’s a slow build. Don’t ignore your instincts. Follow your
instincts where it is directing you to.
Dos…
7. be honest. That you shouldn’t misrepresent yourself does
not mean you should tell everything about yourself right of the bat. Maintain
some mystery. Don’t reveal everything during a first if you are interested in a
second date.
8. Go there. That you are compatible with him or her is not
enough. Yes, there has to be some chemistry. So ask some forceful but positive
questions like ‘what makes you happy?’ ‘What are the most important things in
your life?’ ‘What do you enjoy most about your work?’
9. Listen to him/her. Don’t be preparing on what to say when
he is talking. Question him so that he get to detail on what he just told you.
This will tell him that you are attentive and you are also interested. Try and
maintain the ratio of your listening to talking to more or less 50/50.
10. Read their profile again. Try as much as possible to
avoid nasty chats like saying ‘hi’. Always review his/her profile or your
previous conversation with him/her. This will give you an insight to know the
things you will talk about.
11. Show positive body language. Like leaning towards him
when he talks, making eye contact, and smile. You will possibly do these things
without thinking if you truly love him/her.
12. Request for another date. Don’t be too shy. Ask for a
second date. Say thus, “I enjoyed every moment with you and had a really nice
time and I’d like to see you again.”
Enjoy and good luck!
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