Premature ejaculation is when the man spills his semen either before he penetrates the vagina, before he penetrates fully or too soon after penetration.
When premature ejaculation happens frequently and the husband makes but little effort to gain control, it can cause his wife much suffering. It may appear that he treats her personhood, her need to reach the mountian-top (Orgasm) just as he did, and to be one with him in this as in other things. Very often the root cause of this trouble is not a lack of love, but the ignorance of many men about the sexual needs of their wives. Side by side with that is the wife's own reluctance to talk about it. They are not accustomed to communication with each other at that level.
The woman begins to feel rejected: although more often her doubts are quite unjustified. To overcome this very real suffering in his wife, it is essential that the husband should not ignore the fact that he has reached his climax too soon. Instead they should talk together about what has happend and help one another. But there are many occasions when a man cannot avoid premature ejaculation. Women can sometimes forget that. They need to realise that men can also suffer when it happens. It maybe the result of prolonged abstinence, some kind of indisposition, or do so much to help. And again, their sense of humour lightens the situation for both of them.
When premature ejaculation happens frequently and the husband makes but little effort to gain control, it can cause his wife much suffering. It may appear that he treats her personhood, her need to reach the mountian-top (Orgasm) just as he did, and to be one with him in this as in other things. Very often the root cause of this trouble is not a lack of love, but the ignorance of many men about the sexual needs of their wives. Side by side with that is the wife's own reluctance to talk about it. They are not accustomed to communication with each other at that level.
The woman begins to feel rejected: although more often her doubts are quite unjustified. To overcome this very real suffering in his wife, it is essential that the husband should not ignore the fact that he has reached his climax too soon. Instead they should talk together about what has happend and help one another. But there are many occasions when a man cannot avoid premature ejaculation. Women can sometimes forget that. They need to realise that men can also suffer when it happens. It maybe the result of prolonged abstinence, some kind of indisposition, or do so much to help. And again, their sense of humour lightens the situation for both of them.
How can a man prevent repeated premature ejaculation?
Then solution lies in a true understanding of human sexuality as opposed alleviated. If not altogether removed. If husband and wife develop this deeper understanding by discussion together.
Ejaculation too soon often occurs because of fear. The husband may be very tense, fearing that he may not live up to the expectation of his wife, and that he will not satisfy her. Some men never learn that sheer power alone. Without love. Can never fully satisfy a woman. The human being is one person; women consists of soul and body as a unity. The biggest mistake that a man can make is to separate that soul and body in his wife and come to her as if she were body alone. By approaching her in this way he not only reduces her, he reduces himself as well because acting in this manner is a distortion of reality. True sexuality consists in one whole person fully communicating with another whole person. If this were understood by both husband and wife together, the problem of repeated premature ejaculation, and many other difficulties, would be alleviated. The deliberate effort to control is nearly always rewarded by success after some time; the greatest incentive to make this effort is love. From true love comes the power to control and deeply enjoy the sexual act.
Then solution lies in a true understanding of human sexuality as opposed alleviated. If not altogether removed. If husband and wife develop this deeper understanding by discussion together.
Ejaculation too soon often occurs because of fear. The husband may be very tense, fearing that he may not live up to the expectation of his wife, and that he will not satisfy her. Some men never learn that sheer power alone. Without love. Can never fully satisfy a woman. The human being is one person; women consists of soul and body as a unity. The biggest mistake that a man can make is to separate that soul and body in his wife and come to her as if she were body alone. By approaching her in this way he not only reduces her, he reduces himself as well because acting in this manner is a distortion of reality. True sexuality consists in one whole person fully communicating with another whole person. If this were understood by both husband and wife together, the problem of repeated premature ejaculation, and many other difficulties, would be alleviated. The deliberate effort to control is nearly always rewarded by success after some time; the greatest incentive to make this effort is love. From true love comes the power to control and deeply enjoy the sexual act.
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